I just stood there, staring at them.
I wanted to move, but I couldn’t.
My therapist would later say it was due to the shock I felt and I have to agree.
How could he?
How could he stoop so low?
How could he do that me after everything?
My face was blank as he covered up himself up with the bed sheets.
He stretched out his hands and said,
“Babe, let me explain!”
I didn’t let him finish, instead, I turned to the left towards the man standing there.
Right then it struck me, I knew who he was!
As I turned to him, he ducked and tried to hide his face.
I moved closer to him and said,
“Turn the fuck around!”
He failed to move.
I walked up behind him and placed my hand on the back of his right shoulder and made him turn around.
I was right. I knew him, I just wasn’t sure where from.
I squinted while I looked at him and said,
“Where do I know you from?”
His head down and turned away. As he turned, it struck me.
My eyes grew big as I gasped,
“Aren’t you Susan’s brother?!”
He turned and bolted for his clothes. Susan was one of my employees and her brother had interned for me a few years prior.
I started laughing sarcastically as my husband approached me.
“You are such a dog!
Worse than the filth of this Earth! Oh my God!
How did I ever think to marry you?”
I headed for the door as he reached for me. His left arm touched me. I turned and screamed,
“DON’T FUCKING TOUCH ME!!!”
I stormed out of the room.
On my way out of the house, I stopped by the living room and grabbed my iPhone charger.
It wasn’t until after I had been held up in traffic and driving for about 10 minutes, that I began to I broke down.
Tears were streaming down my face, I felt broken.
I kept asking myself two questions, “Why?” and “What will people think of me?”
I felt like my world was crumbling around me.
I was so lost in thought that I didn’t realize when traffic started moving. The car behind me honked, and I stepped on the gas a little too hard and I bumped into the car in front of me.
I called my driver who I had just dismissed earlier when I stormed out of the house.
The person I hit was yelling at me hysterically. It made sense, especially since the car he was driving belonged to his boss.
I tried to calm him down but he wouldn’t stop yelling. Cars were squeezing around us to get through.
I just wanted to get out of there.
“Madam! I no know how you go do am but you must pay me o. My oga (boss) go kill me!!”, he hysterically wailed at me.
Frustrated, I took a deep sigh and asked,
“How much will be enough to cover this?”
He stopped and looked at me,
“Madam, me I no know o but you go pay for am.”
I turned to my driver and said,
“Adamu, go with him to the mechanic. I will call my assistant to meet you there. She will handle the bill once the car is fixed.”
He nodded and said,
“Madam, you sure sey you go dey okay?”
I nodded while waving him off. I turned to the driver of the car I hit and asked,
“That one go dey okay?”
He shyly nodded as his face was washed with relief.
They both jumped into the other car and headed off.
I returned to my car and headed for a nearby hotel that my husband and I frequently used on date nights.
I just needed some quiet so I could think.
As my back touched the bed, I curled up into a ball and it felt like my mind began doing a full highlight reel of my life with my husband.
Every situation and circumstance we had experienced. I couldn’t begin to understand what was going on.
My heart began to go through different phases. There was betrayal, then anger, then I felt guilt and embarrassment.
“Maybe this was my fault for not giving him children.”, I thought to myself.
But that would not explain him being with a man.
Another wave of tears came about, I had been with a man that was a liar and a fraud.
How could I have been so stupid?
I pretty much cried myself to sleep that night.
When I opened my eyes, it was 9am.
I was typically up before 5am on most days. I was clearly exhausted.
I had my clothes from my trip to Ghana, so I freshened up and decided that I would go about my day.
The one thing I was sure of was that if I stayed balled in, I would only think about my problems.
So I decided to immerse myself into my work, with the hopes of getting better.
I showed up at the office with my sunglasses on as I walked through the building.
No one was going to see the pain in my eyes.
I met with my first clients of the day, shortly after 11am.
They were a couple going through a divorce. A huge part of providing therapy for anyone is always being able to check your countertransference.
As they discussed their issues with me, I found myself doubting every word that came out of the man’s mouth.
I could just hear the words my husband said at our last session, coming out of his mouth like it was a voice over….
“I would never leave you for another woman…”
Carefully put by a bastard who had mastered playing the lines.
Yes, he did not leave me for a man but he thought it was okay to be with another man?
My mind had wandered and I snapped back into the present.
I don’t even remember giving any advice to that couple that day, I just wanted them to be honest with themselves.
I said to both of them, “This will only work if the two of you are truly and completely honest with each other.
Not even seeing me will help if the other is still holding back.”
That was the crux of what I said before I sent them on their way.
I was responding to emails when I heard a knock on the door.
“Come in.” ,I said in an even tone.
The door drifted open and I looked up. It was my husband.
Filled with disgust, I asked, “What are you doing here?”
He shut the door behind him and he got down on his knees as he said, “Please let me explain.”
I could not believe this man.
I stood up and yelled, “Explain what…?!
How you cheated on me with another man?
How you lied to my face in months of therapy?
How long have you been taking it up your ass? Huh…?! How long have you been exposing me to diseases and disrespect…? Tell me!
Is that what you came to explain…?
…we were supposed to be in this together. To prove the world wrong and show that true love perseveres.
Everything I preach and teach my clients is a lie! All because of you and your selfish ass.
I pray you rot in hell. I have nothing more to say to you.
Get out of my office!”
He stayed on the floor and just looked up at me for mercy.
Mercy didn’t live here.
I knew no mercy and I say this to you now, if I could, I would have killed him.
He stretched out his hands like a beggar in Ojodu and said, “Please find it in your heart to forgive me.”
Those words set me off.
No, I need to find a way to forgive myself for the mistake of marrying you. Since you won’t leave, I’ll leave for you.”
I grabbed my purse, car keys and made my way for the door.
As I approached him, he stood up and grabbed me.
Those strong arms that once protected me, felt like a prison I could not break free from.
“Let me go! Tobias, let me gooooo!
Let me go.. let me goo… let meeeee gooooo!!”
I broke down in tears in his arms as he held the back of my head.
I cried in his arms and he held on to me. A part of it felt familiar and also unclean.
A few moments passed and I pushed him off.
Teary eyes, I looked up to him and said, “You fucked me over. I never did anything to deserve this!”
I stormed out of my office and caught the eye of Lizzy, my assistant as I headed out.
I paused and said, “You can reach me on my cell for any urgent matters but please reschedule all my appointments for the week and help me look into a ticket to London for next week. Thanks.”
She forced a smile as I walked out.
Lizzy was a true confidant and as I headed out, I felt like I trusted her more than I trusted myself.
As I drove away, I selected the late Fela Anikulapo Kuti’s album “Gentleman”.
Windows down, shades on, tears streaming down my cheeks – I blasted one of the truly legendary albums ever released out of Africa.
Straight to my sister’s house, I went. I needed a lifting.
I needed my nieces.
Nobody was home when I arrived.
I parked on the side of the street and just sat on the front steps.
Gazing into the settling evening, I must have been sitting there for about 4 hours.
I heard their footsteps as they turned the corner, my nieces ran up to me and hugged me.
Their parents followed closely behind.
As my sister approached me, she said, “How long have you been sitting there?”
I smiled and lied, “Not too long. How are you guys?!”
I redirected my attention to my nieces. Off they went!
Chattering about their day and everything colorful within it. Bliss.
As we entered the living room, they headed to their rooms to finish their homework and then come out to play.
My sister and I sat down in the living room. Her husband turned on the television and flipped through the sports channels.
She turned and asked me point blank, “What is wrong?”
A part of me wanted to lie but I couldn’t anymore.
I dropped my head for a moment, took in a deep breath. I looked up and said, “Tobias has been cheating on me”
Her husband turned around and looked towards us. He stepped back from the television and came to sit next to me.
She gathered herself and said, “Sis, I am so sorry to hear that…
…Are you okay?
How did you find out…?”
I smiled and fought back tears as I said, “Let’s just say I found out.”
My sister patted my back and simultaneously rubbed it as she said, “You know you are always welcome to come and stay here with us.”
I nodded and replied, “That won’t be necessary. I am already staying somewhere.”
She knew better than to argue with me.
I gave them some more updates on my trip to Ghana and the last 12 hours of my day with him coming to my office.
As I wrapped up, I asked, “Where are the girls?”
My sister replied and said, “They are finishing up their homework. They should be done soon.
…In the meantime, can I get you anything to drink? Water, juice, wine, whiskey…?”
She motioned and smiled as she walked towards the kitchen.
I smiled at her trying to cheer me up and said, “Whiskey. On the rocks.”
“Alrighty! Babe, what about you?”,she asked her husband.
“A beer is okay babe.”
She disappeared into the kitchen.
As the kitchen door closed, her husband moved closer to me and said, “I am sorry Adeola. I can’t even begin to understand how hard this must be for you”
He paused and said,“This doesn’t change much for me though, I still think you need to tell him.”
I looked at him in confusion and said, “Why would I need to tell him that? Why would I even tell anyone that right now?”
He sighed and said, “I understand that it is hard for you but you have to tell him. You need to tell the people you love. They deserve to know.”
As those words sailed off, my sister was halfway into the room.
She said, “Tell us what.”
I looked up and saw the uncertainty written all over her face.
I looked at her husband, her and then sighed before saying, “I have stage IV ovarian cancer.”
Before I could finish my sentence, the glass in her hand dropped and shattered all over the floor.
At that very same moment, from the corner of my eye, I saw my nieces burst into the living room.
It all happened like it was in slow motion but the farthest from it, my life was a rollercoaster ride at it was about to fly off the tracks.
Be back here on Saturday 7-29-17 for Part 3 of this gripping series; Against Counsel
Against Counsel – Part 2 by The Wordsmith @adewus4real
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